Final summary
When it comes to a long-lasting relationship, don’t leave anything to chance! You need to figure out your own attachment style and then try to find a partner who is able to give you what you want and need.
Actionable advice:
If you have a problem with your partner, tell them! It’s no good for anyone if you let a small problem fester over time. This can be an enormous strain on your relationship! Instead, tell your partner when you are unhappy without letting other issues obscure your discussion. This way you can both work on a solution.
Try to figure out your own attachment style. If you want to have a healthy and happy relationship, you’ll first need to have a better understanding of yourself and your needs. Knowing your attachment style can help you not only to better understand your needs but also better communicate those needs and find a partner who is able to fulfill them.
From the book 'Attached."
How can I get the love and the sex that I want?
Here’s the thing. You’re never going to find the perfect partner and your relationship is never going to be perfect, either. So to help you get the love you want, here are two things that you can do to make sure your relationship works:
First, approve of yourself. Live your life exactly how you want. People who like you for who you are will stick around. And those who don’t? Well, they won’t.
Second, set boundaries. When you do this, you create an atmosphere where you and your partner can be intimate and vulnerable together. Your partner feels secure and, in turn, loved. Boundaries will create respect between you and your partner.