Final summary

The secret to transforming your approach to relationships is connection: connection with yourself and connection with your partner. To connect with yourself, you need to discover who you are deep down, from your needs and boundaries to your emotional scars and attachment style. Only when you connect and work on yourself will you be able to form genuine relationships.

Once you get into a relationship, you then need to dedicate yourself to connecting with your partner. Learn how to handle their triggers, keep the love burning, and manage conflicts that come your way. Relationships demand ongoing effort, and they will only thrive when you give them consistent care and cultivation.

From the book 'Closer to Love.'

Jan 07, 2024 12:59:54pm

Similarly, strive to double the amount of time you think you should spend with your children – and cut the amount of money you spend on them in half. As with any significant relationship, it’s your presence they’ll remember, not your presents. Reading to or with your kids is one example of a low-cost activity with a high return on investment.

On those rare occasions your child comes to you wondering what they should do, put your own preferences on hold and first ask what they want. More often than not, the best advice is to advise them to do just that.

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Jan 07, 2024 12:59:03pm

Excellent advice for parenting

To parent, or not to parent. That is one of life’s biggest questions.

Raising children is equal parts challenge and reward. If you already have kids or are looking to start a family soon, here are some lessons Kelly learned while bringing up his own.

To start with the counterintuitive, one of the best things you can do for your children is to prioritize your relationship with your partner. As the leaders of your family, the love and respect you show for each other provides a powerful model and fosters an atmosphere of psychological safety. Both are tremendously influential.