Start small. Practice calming yourself, speaking nondefensively and validating your partner in an ordinary conversation. While you’re driving somewhere, or watching TV together, for example. Practice even if you’re tired and you really don’t feel like doing it. Overlearning means that you become so used to that behavior that it becomes automatic. So even in the heat of an argument, even when you’re feeling flooded and overwhelmed, you’re able to access these tools. And instead of getting stuck in a negative spiral, you’re able to have a meaningful argument – one in which both of you are able to say how you feel and know that your partner gets it. Or at least that they want to get it. An argument that you’re able to resolve.
Marriages are like delicate ecosystems – they need balance. A balance of conflict and harmony. A balance of negativity and positivity. There’s a reason you fell in love with the person you married. That reason may be hard to remember after years of stress and frustration. But it’s there. These tools will interrupt the negative thoughts you have swarming around your head, and allow you to find that love again.
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Updated Jan 06, 2024 9:26:45am
Solon Papageorgiou shared a link.
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Updated Jan 06, 2024 9:22:25am
Be a strong personal leader by empowering those around you.
We all play leadership roles for others in our lives sometimes. As a parent, it's your relationship with your children. As an employee, it's your relationship with your colleagues.
To be a good personal leader in such situations, you must strive to empower those you lead. While it's not possible to directly instill empowerment in anyone, you can create conditions that allow them to empower themselves. Conditions such as trust, respect and honesty will naturally lead to empowerment in others.